I think I’ve cut back posting on motherhood because I didn’t really realize what a nerve it strikes in some. Like…I don’t feel like I should be judged for how I choose parent my child and I am certainly not looking for any unsolicited advice on how to do so. Also, I don’t judge any of you for the choices you make with your kids. I didn’t realize all this existed — this mommy war stuff — before I had a baby. Why, as mothers, are we so darn mean to each other? For the life of me, I don’t get it. Aren’t we all in the same boat? Waging the same battle? As moms of babies, we’re putting in the days and nights, burning the candle on both ends, so why all the judgement? I don’t really know how it comes off on here, but in real life I am so easy going…I firmly believe there’s no one right way and different things work for different babies. In short, you do what works for you and I’ll do what works for us. That’s the end of that.
All that being said, I don’t want to turn away from posting on motherhood for fear of upsetting people on the internet. Shauna Niequist, who I highly respect as a writer and a person, wrote recently, “Writing about a complicated topic this morning, & realized I was writing bad reviews & comments in my mind–‘if I say this, they’ll say that! Someone will definitely jump all over this part!’ Yikes. Anticipating the words of your critics is death for a creator of any kind. So I’m practicing the disciplines of truth-telling & bravery today. We don’t write for critics & reviewers. We write to connect, to make people (and ourselves) feel less alone. Today: whatever you’re making, don’t make it for the critics. Make it to connect. And I will, too.”
Have truer words ever been written? Since she posted that on Facebook last week it’s been in my head and a silent voice inside has been saying yes, me too. I don’t write for critics, haters or trolls. I write to connect. And whether that’s sharing about motherhood or sharing a cookie recipe, the end game is all about connection.
Now that I got THAT off my chest!
Motherhood is so sweet for us right now.
Grayson is in the perfect roly-poly baby stage and we never want him to get an inch bigger.
Mornings are the sweetest time. I want to bottle up these mornings that are filled with baby laughter, espresso and crumbs in the bed. I feel like I’ve finally really gotten accustomed to my role as a mother.
The days, which used to drag on, now go by so quickly. Weeks and months are just flying by and all I can do is savor every second of each stage. How can it be that Grayson has just about been in the world for the same amount of time that he was inside of me?
It feels like just yesterday I found out I was pregnant, Adam and I laying next to each other in total silence brought on by shock and awe. However, giving birth seems like years ago. How is that possible?
The most shocking thing of all the motherhood stuff I think, is how much I adore being a boy mom.
I’m sure little girls are wonderful but I just really love being a boy mom. It’s hit me hard and unexpected…when I’m buying play dinosaurs, jammies with trucks on them or just curled up nursing. I love knowing that I’m raising a little man. It’s pretty much the best thing ever.
I’m on my computer less and less these days, just trying to soak up every precious moment as it passes. I’ve learned how good it is, how sweet it is, to close the screen, put down the phone and just be with Grayson…whether I’m reading to him or watching him as he plays. It blows my mind just how much I love this little man…and his dad, of course!
Kelsey M.
January 28, 2015 at 2:16 pmOh, look at that sweet little face! I love the updates! I love that so many blogs that I have followed for a while change and grow in this way. I am not a mother yet, but I will be someday! It’s nice to have a heads up on all of those wonderful things that babies bring into your life. Please don’t listen to the whiners that try to tell you how to raise your beautiful boy! Women have been having babies and raising them for centuries. There is no right or wrong way to do it! The world would be a much happier place if everyone would get a hobby and some sunshine! 🙂
Laura @ Raise Your Garden
February 2, 2015 at 10:34 amNo judgements here either…..
All I say about motherhood is that 1) It brings out the best in me and 2) It brings out the worst in me!
Dana
February 20, 2015 at 4:26 amAgreed!
Meagan M
January 28, 2015 at 2:21 pmLove this post!!! Good for you for doing what works for you and your family! I love your food posts but I love your motherhood posts as well 🙂 we need to ban together as moms and fight for one another, not judge and put others down. There is enough negativity in this world without moms adding to it
Alexandria
January 28, 2015 at 2:23 pmOur little man is about a week younger than Grayson and your words could not be truer! Keep up the posting and the great mothering 🙂 Just remember, we aren’t in a battle but a lifelong adventure 😉
IY
January 28, 2015 at 2:25 pmHappened to watch this today – http://www.parentdish.ca/2015/01/27/similac-video-mommy-wars/
Kara
January 28, 2015 at 4:45 pmI love this Similar commercial. I didn’t know this mommy war existed until my son was born. I just thought it was mothers vs non-moms. Now it is, well you only have One child. I just decided I am not participating(in the war) . It takes a village, and I need all the support and help I can get.
Linda
January 30, 2015 at 8:37 amI was going to post this video as well; glad you beat me to it. I am a 51 year old mom of 3 (youngest is 10)–sadly the “mommy wars” are nothing new. Keep true to what you know in your heart and gut is best for your child and your family. There isn’t only one “recipe!”
Ellen
January 28, 2015 at 2:27 pmJenna, While I’m not a mother, I am inspired by your honesty and courage to say those words as a woman. All too often, we spend time critiquing each other and judging each other’s actions, when we should be loving, supporting, and uplifting the women in our lives. Thank you for your witness to living out motherhood in a way that is best for you and your family. We need to be reminded to unplug, put down our phones, and just BE with those around us, whether that’s family, friends, or even strangers. I’m just loving your blog and the honesty and beauty of it lately. Thanks again. 🙂
Lauren C
January 29, 2015 at 11:05 amSo well said!
Erin
January 28, 2015 at 2:32 pmI love reading your posts on motherhood. I’ve been a long time reader, from back before either of us were mothers. I have a daughter who is almost 3, a son who is 10 months, and am due with our second daughter at the end of May. The mommy wars mentality is so hard… I still have people questioning certain decisions or parenting techniques. Wouldn’t it be a much more beautiful world if we supported each other and lifted each other up as opposed to knocking each other down? That being said, keep on being the amazing mama and wife that your boys are so lucky to have. ??
Erin Hack
January 28, 2015 at 2:34 pmI’m sorry that people are being mean, but am so happy that you are continuing to do your thing. I love reading your posts and some people just thrive on being mean. Don’t let them get to you! xo
Sharon
January 28, 2015 at 2:35 pmIt is amazing how much you can love a child! Indescribable! Please don’t be discouraged by people who don’t matter. You are doing a great job! He’s adorable!
Ashley Harrison
January 31, 2015 at 1:54 amI would have to agree… don’t worry about the negative people. They will continue to be negative no matter what. You Just Stay Positive And Take Care of Your Beautiful child.
Annie
January 28, 2015 at 2:38 pmI will just simply say, I look forward to your mama posts. Keep up the great writing.
Katherine
January 28, 2015 at 2:47 pmI also have a 9 month old. It is such a fun age! I almost forget how challenging the first couple of months were. Almost. I have enjoyed reading your blog since before I was pregnant and it has been so nice for me to relate to your experience becoming a mother. I feel badly that you’ve had to defend any of your choices. We are all just trying to do the best that we can. Your son always looks so happy and loved and that’s the most important thing.
Teri
January 28, 2015 at 2:54 pmSorry to hear you’ve felt some conflict in response to your posts. I think you have the right of it, post to connect. Good for you!
Grayson is looking so healthy and happy, and that’s the most important thing. Enjoy!
Allyson McBreen
January 28, 2015 at 2:56 pmAmen – Its been a long time since i was a mom of a baby so my couple of thoughts.
1. I love reading your posts and thinking about the new options you have at your disposal
2. It never ever gets easier from a judgement perspective. My son is 19 and has made some choices that i may not agree with and i am the one who has been judged by family & friends, as it relates to the quality of my parenting. Its devastating to not feel supported. It does take a village.
3. Your sweet son is absolutely undeniably adorable!!!
4. You are doing a wonderful job!!!
Joey
January 28, 2015 at 3:06 pmHate that you’re dealing with haters, but thankful you keep choosing to share with those of us who appreciate you and your posts! You seem to be a wonderful mama and I enjoy being along for the ride.
Kelly
January 28, 2015 at 3:04 pmThanks for writing this post. I enjoyed it. The experiences you share make me very much look forward to when it’s my time for motherhood. I’m still a couple years away, but I can’t wait!!
Rebecca @ Strength and Sunshine
January 28, 2015 at 3:17 pmYou write anything that you want! You are a wonderful mother and Grayson is such a handsome little man! (P.S. I <3 his Starbucks bib!)
Maryz
January 28, 2015 at 3:19 pmSo sad….we are all just trying to do our best! My kids are in their 20’s now, but I wish I would have savored the time a little more! Enjoy that babe! You are doing an awesome job!
Leann
January 28, 2015 at 3:20 pmjenna
I applause your honest and brave post. You probably just encouraged alot of moms that are feeling The same pressures. I am a grandmother – watching my 2 beautiful daughters mothering in sometimes very different styles and yet they encourage and support each other every day. One has chosen to stay home, the other to return to work. One did cloth diapers the other disposables. The list goes on, but they make wise choices that are right for them and their husbands and babies. I hope you continue to cherish each moment and keep writing when available! God bless you????
Liza
January 28, 2015 at 3:23 pmGreat post. I’m sorry that you have to deal with negativity, but know that you are inspiring so many of us out here with your real commentary, the depth of your perspective, and your genuine honesty. So glad you are soaking up every moment with your sweet boy!
Jessica L.
January 28, 2015 at 3:26 pmJenna – this post speaks to me so much. I totally get what you’re saying about mothers at war and agree that what’s right for you and your baby is not necessarily what’s right for me and mine. And I know exactly what you mean about finding your groove with motherhood around 7-8 months. That’s when I really fell in love with it too, and my precious lil man is 19(!) months now. Keep doing what you’re doing, I love reading about your experiences!!
Heather
January 28, 2015 at 3:39 pmMy little guy is two months younger than Grayson and I’ve loved following your pregnancy and motherhood posts. It gives me a preview of what’s to come, good ideas for products, and a check on savory go where we are at. Please keep posting because connection is so important, especially if you can’t meet up with friends in person!
Heather
January 28, 2015 at 3:54 pmI’m in a similar stage as you are and I love hearing about your adventures! Thanks for sharing with us all. It’s a blessing to me!
Emily @ Life on Food
January 28, 2015 at 3:56 pmHe is such a cutie! I love the beginning of this post. I cannot imagine judging someone else on their parenting choices, particularly at this point in a babies life. They are all so different. I am due in 5 weeks and I want to hear about as many different experiences as possible to prepare.
Jess
January 28, 2015 at 4:12 pmI have no idea what it’s like to be a blog writer but I do know what it’s like to be a new mom and I agree we should all support each other. Everyone criticizes everyone! I look to you as someone who has figured out what works for you and I admire it! You give me hope that I can get my baby on a schedule and travel cross country someday! So thank you!
Kathryn
January 28, 2015 at 4:35 pmAmen, sister. Keep it up!
Stephanie
January 28, 2015 at 4:42 pmJenna, I don’t normally comment on posts, I just enjoy reading blogs, and at the same time I don’t read the comments of the blog posts, but I felt like I needed to comment on your post. I truly enjoy your blog it’s always enjoyable, and finds the silver lining in all things. Don’t waste your time with the haters, they aren’t worth the energy. I have always felt when others are critical or try to tear me down its not me it’s them, and this may sound strange, but I pray for them that they find peace in their heart. Keep on with your posts I truly love your blog, and enjoy how it has evolved. ????
Stephanie
January 28, 2015 at 4:45 pmSorry I don’t know why the “????” posted, it’s what I get from commenting from my phone.
Anna G
January 28, 2015 at 4:45 pmJenna- I applaud you for speaking up and doing so with such frankness yet gentleness! I have read some of the comments you have received in the past and felt disheartened with you- it truly does amaze me how often people offer unsolicited advice and how unkind they can be! I think you are a wonderful mother, woman, sister-in-Christ! I love to read whatever you write. Standing with you as a fellow mama of young kids! (-;
Kaitlyn @ RunLearnLive
January 28, 2015 at 4:46 pmOh my goodness – that last picture! He is absolutely adorable.
Long time reader and I love how the blog has changed through the years — I’ve always felt that you are a sincere and very real writer and I’ve appreciated your honest emotions and opinions.
Caitlin
January 28, 2015 at 4:58 pmHonestly – I don’t usually read the motherhood posts because it’s just not “that time” in my life yet. HOWEVER I find it unreal anyone would say anything negative to someone on this topic! The few I have read on your blog I found extremely refreshing. It was so nice hear an HONEST voice on pregnancy, motherhood, and the struggles and joy it’s brought you. I think there are WAY too many sugar-coated “mommy blog(gers)” out there, so for me, it was nice to finally read “OMG! This is so much harder than I thought!” posts.
Anyway, much love! 🙂
Sherilyn
January 28, 2015 at 4:59 pmI’m not a mom yet but I really appreciate the honest way you blog about life and about motherhood. I started reading this blog when I got into running and healthy eating and have loved seeing how it develops over the years. Many of the things you post about (cloth diapering for instance) are things I”m interested to learn about for when I become a mom. Keep it up…not everyone is a hater 🙂
Sara
January 28, 2015 at 5:05 pmJenna, what a wonderfully written post! Someone told me once that many women are oftentimes so judgmental about others decisions because they are insecure about their own choices…and somehow feel the need to defend their choices by putting others down. It’s actually pretty sad to me. I have a fun almost 10 month old little boy and have been enjoying all of your motherhood posts. I’ve picked up some great tips along the way! I really love being a mother to a boy! They’re just so sweet .
Sara
January 28, 2015 at 5:16 pmI’m sorry you’ve experienced the phenomenon that is slamming people from the comfort of your own home. You don’t deserve that, and it’s rare that anyone does. I will say this–it’s something I’ve wanted to express for a while now, but I’ve hesitated because I don’t want to be anything but a faithful follower of your sweet blog. As someone who has been married for several years, but remains childless, I so miss your wonderful recipes. Perhaps that will no longer be the focus of the blog–perhaps the “Live” in “Eat Live Run” will be the heavyweight, but I would sincerely like to know your plan. I’ll still read, but my heart sinks ever so slightly each time I see a new post from you that has little to do with your original focus.
christine
January 28, 2015 at 5:42 pmI have a 12 week old baby boy, Bryce, and I’m shocked at how mean, judgemental, and unsupportive women can be to each other when it comes to parenting! It makes me sad. If all babies were to be raised the same they’d come with a manual but like you said all babies are different and we do what works best.
Grayson is a beautiful, happy baby so you keep doing what you’re doing Mama!
Sara
January 28, 2015 at 5:47 pmThank you for putting into words how great it is to be a mommy to a boy! I have a son who is 2.5 and as one of three girls growing up, I am thrilled to be raising a boy. Dinosaurs, trains, trucks, bring it on! Such a special bond between a mom and son.
Julie @ Table for Two
January 28, 2015 at 5:47 pmSeriously love what you wrote in the first three paragraphs. I’m no mom yet but I see it DAILY and it makes me dread when that time comes (I mean obviously not really dread it but you know what I mean)…I don’t understand the judging, the negativity, etc. It’s like you do you and I’ll do me. I don’t get why anyone has to care so much about what others are doing. Isn’t your own life enough stress as it is? Why do you have to worry about someone ELSE’s life? Sigh. I’ll never understand it. I love your mommy posts and Grayson is growing up SO fast! Holy cow! Love you Jenna! xx
Jessica
January 28, 2015 at 5:59 pmJenna, Grayson is absolutely adorable and you are a wonderful mother. I have read your blog for years,but rarely comment. You’re just doing a great job. Yes. It is hard. The age Grayson is at now was my favorite wiht my son too (now 22 months). I LOVED it. It gets better, and it gets worse, and every phase is different; cherish the ones you enjoy, and count to ten through the trying times – remember every phase is temporary. 😉 I also love love love being a boy mom… and then when my little guy was 17 months, I had another baby, and now I love being a girl mom too. Watching them starting to interact melts my heart.
I’m glad you’re still going to write about mother hood; mess and all!
barb
January 28, 2015 at 6:02 pmJenna this is a beautifully written post. I am so very sorry for the need to write this. You are your own person. I like your spunk. Your honesty is why I come back and visit. Along with your food items and your photos. I am not a mother, never have been, never will be but my heart breaks that there are mean spirited people. No one deserves that ever. Kill em with kindness my Momma always said.
Liz @ I Heart Vegetables
January 28, 2015 at 6:16 pmI’m not a mom, but I’ve certainly seen some of the “mommy wars” you’re talking about. I think that’s true of so many topics (although motherhood is certainly a hot one!) and I LOVE that perspective on writing to connect. None of us are writing for the critics! The haters can hate all they want 😉 I love your blog so much, I enjoy your recipes, baby photos, and anything else you want to share!
Kelli @ Wandering Root
January 28, 2015 at 6:23 pmLove all of this and I agree being a boy mom is fantastic. 🙂
Tamara
January 28, 2015 at 6:25 pmJenna- YOU DO YOU, girl!! I have two daughters, ages 1 and 2. While I don’t mind swapping stories with any number of folks on the ups and downs of mommyhood, I learned very quickly to ignore and politely shut down the unsolicited comments. From anyone- my best friends, my mom, my colleagues. I’m so much more relaxed and happy for it. As you said so well, the time flies by so breathtakingly fast. The leaves no time to be worrying about what others think of my parenting. Grayson is an adorable ball of juiciness! Enjoy his little chubby self! Soak up all the snuggles!
Kim
January 28, 2015 at 6:34 pmI’m 25 weeks pregnant with our first child, and I honestly think that hearing different perspectives on feeding, sleeping, diapering, and everything else baby related is helping me prepare to make decisions for our baby. I’m one of those people who likes to know as much as possible before I make a decision– where would the fun be if everyone thought the same? So keep doing what you’re doing– I’ll still be here enjoying what you chose to post and giving you every right to raise your baby as you see fit!
Caroline
January 28, 2015 at 6:34 pmI love reading your blog but have never commented. Please know this: your motherhood posts bring me such joy! I love that you are honest and real about this season of life – your perspective is so refreshing! Your choice to keep writing despite the haters is a blessing to many of us!
Kim
January 28, 2015 at 6:44 pmThis is by far my favorite post you have ever written. Well done mama~
Leesa Gentry
January 28, 2015 at 6:46 pmAs a soon to be grandmother I want you to know that if at the end of the day you know that you did your best, forget everyone else. The haters have no life and are trying to ensure that you have no life as well. Your son is awesome! I am the mother of two sons and I can’t agree with you more about being the mother of a boy. There is nothing sweeter and it will only get better. Lucky for me that my soon to be grand baby will be a girl. Can’t wait to see all the wonders of the girl world with the added advantage that she can always do home with Mom and Dad. Give that sweet boy and extra hug and kiss today from all of us, your fans!!!
Stephanie @ Macaroni and Cheesecake
January 28, 2015 at 6:47 pmThank you for this post! I totally feel you and am sometimes fearful to post pictures of my daughter on social media because I’ve been criticized (she’s dressed too warm, too hot, not buckled correctly, etc) and find myself thinking of the possible negative comments. Totally just need to be myself and realize, haters gonna hate, and not worry about it! It’s okay if we mother our children differently. We have to do what’s best for our individual children and families!
Bess
January 28, 2015 at 7:00 pmHi Jenna! I have really enjoyed your blog for a few years now. It was actually the first blog I read regularly. I think I continued to look for new posts because I enjoy reading about faith, food and family! And as a mom to 3 kids now under the age of 5 I have really enjoyed your thoughts on parenting! This is the first time I have posted on your site but I just wanted to say hang in there and ignore the negativity. I also get so disheartened when women can be so judge mental toward one another rather than cheering each other along! And no one is being coerced into reading your blog. Please continue to share what is on your heart rather that worrying about what others will think. Your family is adorable and I wish you the best in the days ahead! I will keep reading and also trying your recipes!
Caitlin
January 28, 2015 at 7:12 pmI’m so sorry you’ve been judged so harshly by others. I follow you and several other bloggers and you seem to receive the largest portion of negative and attacking comments. It makes me sad that people can be so mean toward others. I did originally start following you for your food posts, but now that my husband and I are getting closer to creating a family of our own I’ve been really enjoying these posts. You do seem to be the most honest about the ups and downs of parenthood and I enjoy reading about your experiences and philosophies. It gives me more of an idea of what I might expect and how I may choose to raise my future child. I agree–there’s no right or wrong way to raise a child and you need to do what works best for you, your family, and your situation. Keep it up! Grayson is adorable!
Catherine
January 28, 2015 at 7:16 pmThank you for being so brave and sharing your life with us. I’m sorry people have been so harsh to you. I began reading your blog way back when you were in culinary school, and I just feel privileged to read about your life and recipes, and the sweet new little man in your life. I’m 33 weeks pregnant with my first and I feel so grateful to be able to read about your life as a new mom. I’m having a little boy too, so watching you with Grayson has really touched my heart and made me really look forward to having a sweet little boy in my life. We may all be different in the way we parent, but the one thing we have in common is the immense amount of love we have for our little ones. It’s a shame that people are being hard on you when, really, we should be coming together to support each other on our journeys.
Lani
January 28, 2015 at 7:16 pmAbsolutely! Very well said, Jenna. I’m sorry you had to say any of this. Everyone is unique so parenting is not one size fits all. Needless to say, you seem like a great mom to me.
We both have 8 month old boys and I agree- it is amazing.
Stefanie @ Sarcastic Cooking
January 28, 2015 at 7:23 pmWow. I totally love that quote. It is like we have this blog before a kid and then in order to not cause any outrage we need to just basically ignore that aspect of our life on the blog. And holy mom shaming. It is awful. You need to watch that similac commercial. It basically makes fun of how moms judge each other but then brings out the waterworks at the end and reminds us we are all in it together! I also looove being a boy mom! I never thought I would say that either. I love rough housing with my 1 yr old and playing catch and hearing him say my mama is just the best thing ever. Keep doing what you are doing, you’re a great mom and you have a happy and healthy little guy!
Allison
January 28, 2015 at 7:26 pmI don’t have kids, so I haven’t experienced the mommy wars, though I’ve heard others mention them as well. It is sad that people can get caught up in that. I love to read about the different ways people parent because it gives me all kind of ideas about things I’d love to do as a parent. (I also love Shauna Niequist–one of my favorites!) Anyway. I love your posts of your cute boy. He is just darling, and they always make me smile. I’m so glad you are having so much fun.
Morgan
January 28, 2015 at 7:29 pmyou are THE best mom to Grayson. You were made to be his mother and he was made to be your son. I hope your words reach someone who needs to some motherhood encouragement- we are all in this together!! Xoxo
Leslie
January 28, 2015 at 7:57 pmJenna, I have read your blog for a while now, since before Grayson or even your hubby were in the picture. I don’t think I have ever commented but love your recipes and sense of peace. I will tell you there is not one way to parent, as you know, and the way I am a mom to my 9 month old boy is very different to how I initially parented my now 6 year old boy. With my baby, I am so much more at ease having been through it before. And they are so very different personalities! I, too, love being a mom to boys. I wonder if there is a girl waiting in the wings sometimes. Negativity is an expression of fear and jealousy and we all do awesome things and make mistakes. I, like you, make an effort to love with all of my heart and have patience and enjoy every moment. You have a beautiful family and your gratitude spills forth. I will continue to read. Whenever I can find a moment, that is!
Stephanie
January 28, 2015 at 7:59 pmI am so sad that people have been mean! You are so right…we are all in this together. As far as I’m concerned, it’s great to get advice when requested but otherwise we should just all be cheerleading for one another! I mean, seriously, we all deserve a medal for making it through the “4th trimester”. So, today, I will give you a high five for your amazing baby food making! I want so badly to make more food for my little guy but with a 3 year old running around too, I often turn to the easy squeeze pouches. I am so impressed every time I see the incredible food you make for Grayson and just thought you should know it! He’s one lucky boy to have such a great mama!
Rebecca @ Bring Back Delicious
January 28, 2015 at 8:03 pmI follow a professional bodybuilder on Facebook. You would think that people that didn’t like the way she looked wouldn’t bother commenting or sharing and making rude comments, but no. Luckily, she, like you, have a following that supports you so hopefully you feel the love through a splatter of hurt.
On another note, I just love mornings because our little one is just SO happy. She’s only six months old but I’m in the same boat where things feel both close and so far away.
Kelli H (Made in Sonoma)
January 28, 2015 at 8:05 pmI have been loving your mom updates, more so than any of your other posts, but either way, I love to keep up on your adventures. Blogging is such a personal way of sharing your life while at the same time inviting others to comment on it. I definitely feel everyone should be able to share their opinions without being judged so harshly. This is YOUR journal and you shouldn’t feel anything but comfortable writing about your experiences with Grayson. Keep on writing, Jenna!
lauren
January 28, 2015 at 8:56 pmI love your motherhood posts! My kid is only a few months but I refer back to your posts on motherhood and baby etc all.the.time. I like your honesty on mothering, body issues (and not focusing on them and rather embracing the positive!) and recaps of each stage of Grayson’s life! Mostly because it makes me feel like I’m not crazy for feeling certain ways. I.e not really feeling like I’m a “mom” but rather just feeling really responsible for this life- so when you said you finally feel like you’ve started to feel more accustomed to motherhood – I know i will be there.
This might sound kinda crazy but I use your blog as a big sister stand in so I love your advice and input.
I hope you find encouragement through these words or at least through the multiple folks who support you in the comment section!
Lindsey
January 28, 2015 at 9:52 pmI’m not a huge blog reader, but when I do hop onto the internet for blogs, yours is the first I go to. I’ve read yours for the past few years, and as a fellow (nor Cal!) Christian, I imagine that I can relate to you in so many ways. 🙂 This post voices so many of my own thoughts. My husband and I are leaving for China next month to meet our son–we’re first time parents–and I have been so private about the whole adoption–because it is unbelievable how inappropriate people can be. I’ve watched my friends become moms over the past 5 years and I am (sadly) amazed at how it has literally destroyed some friendships because they are so judgmental of one another.
It’s hard to put yourself out there, but please keep doing so. God’s using you in ways that you can’t see. 🙂
Rachel
January 29, 2015 at 1:14 amI don’t read your blog as often as I used to. I haven’t been able to have children so sometimes I don’t want to read mother posts. That said, those I have read I love and nobody should ever judge you or tell you what to write or do. None of us are perfect, we’re all just doing our best. A few years ago your blog got me through a really hard time and your writing goes from strength to strength even if our lives have gone in different directions. This is a fab post, keep on at it. With love & light from the UK x
Emily
January 29, 2015 at 3:34 amim a longtime reader and love your blog. Never read the comments so didn’t know that was happening. What a bummer. Keep up with the mommahood post! I absolutely love them.
sarah
January 29, 2015 at 5:41 amAgree with everything you wrote! Your little man is absolutely adorable and you are obviously doing a wonderful job with him. Love your updates, as I am just about a month behind you in motherhood (of a little girl!). Life is just so much sweeter now!
Jessica
January 29, 2015 at 5:58 amYou win at motherhood. 🙂 I love this post.
MaryM
January 29, 2015 at 6:22 amWell said! And boys rock!
Meg Jones
January 29, 2015 at 6:37 amHi Jenna! I’ve been a long time reader and have really enjoyed the evolution of your blog. I love your honesty and hearing your stories. I’ve also really enjoyed going back and making some of your old recipes (either favorites, or new to me recipes). Last night I made your Channa Masala (from 2009, I think!) and it was amazing!
Abby
January 29, 2015 at 6:54 amHe is so stinkin cute! Love the motherhood posts. I totally agree that we are all going to parent our kids differently, but we should support one another in any way that we can. And as a girl mom, I love having a daughter and buying her bows (she is almost 17 months old and now asks to wear them :), as well as dresses and leggings. She is really into purses and shoes at the moment – it is really funny to watch her walking around with 5 bags on her arms and trying to put my shoes on my feet. Kids are so much fun!
devon spindle
January 29, 2015 at 6:58 amWhat a powerful message, and good for you!!!! Never let anyone get in the way of what you want to say. I just started following your blog this week and I fell in love when I saw the maple scones and your adorable little man. You are an amazing writer, drawing me in with every sentence. Thank you!
Ashley
January 29, 2015 at 7:00 amHaters gonna hate, screw em! I wish you wrote more about motherhood! I like the food stuff too, but dig the mom stuff way more 🙂
Kim F.
January 29, 2015 at 7:21 amI started reading back in your cooking school days, and I am so glad that this blog has transformed just as you have. Please don’t change anything. You are an amazing woman and I would be so sad if we didn’t get to see any of the joys of you being a momma. I love that you are always honest and truthful – and I love when that spunk comes out as well!
Heather
January 29, 2015 at 7:27 amSo beautifully written. Now as I sit at my desk with blurry eyes I want to go home and hug my babies (12 & 23, still my babies). I’ve noticed an abundance of negativity and judgement in the world that makes me sad. Don’t we each have enough on our plate without worrying about others?
This time passes so quickly, great job taking the time to appreciate all of it that you can. He’s precious.
Lisa
January 29, 2015 at 7:28 amPlease don’t stop writing. I love reading your experiences with Grayson. I have a 2 year old son and almost 5 month old daughter. Motherhood can be lonely at times and reading what you share about motherhood helps me to feel more connected and to remember that am I not alone when parenting is hard! I truly am amazed and thankful that you continue to share despite the harsh comments. Thank you for sharing both the beautiful and messy moments of motherhood!
jones
January 29, 2015 at 8:07 amI agree with you that mothers (and often women in general) are often so mean and to one another and judgmental and that is a shame. I do think it is valid to point out that some people might read your blog and not be able to relate given that you do seem to have certain advantages that many people lack (the ability to stay home with him and financial means given the clothes both you and he wear).
Hanna
January 29, 2015 at 2:29 pmIf people can’t relate, couldn’t they just find another blog to read? Is that an excuse to make snarky comments? I’m not sure if that was even your point, just found your comment confusing!
Barbara
January 30, 2015 at 3:50 pmAgreed! (With you, Hannah). Is that Jenna’s fault that she is able to stay home and has nice clothes?! Wierd! Jenna, I’ve been reading your blog for years (read your book too!), and although I don’t have kids, your blog continues to be one of my favorites. It occured to me the other day that out of all the blogs that I follow, your recipes are the ones that I make the most often. I’ve made a bunch of your things – some over and over! Just the other morning (the day Boston had a ton of snow) I made your gingerbread – it was perfection! I find you very inspiring – the healthy way you live your life…I love that you love to read…I enjoy anything that you feel like writing about. It is your life and your blog. Please remember that there are many many more people out here like me than there are of the other types! 🙂
Kendra
January 29, 2015 at 8:08 amIt’s amazing how rude people can be when they have the safety of a computer screen in front of them. I agree with all the other commenters that enjoy your motherhood posts, pics and updates. My little guy is only a couple weeks younger than Grayson and I love being the mom of a little boy too! Also loved that Shauna post! Great perspective, Jenna!
Jenny H.
January 29, 2015 at 8:13 amThis was just part of our lesson at church last night – “don’t allow good things said about you to go to your head and don’t allow bad things to go to your heart.” Words to live by – pay no attention to those who want to tear you down.
jan
January 29, 2015 at 8:41 amHe’s so precious! I don’t think anything can really prepare you for the emotions motherhood brings forth. There really is no love like it. I’m glad you’re cherishing every moment!
Brianna T.
January 29, 2015 at 8:45 amYes! I’m a mother of two sweet little boys (3 1/2 and almost 1) and I get unsolicited parenting “advice” ALL OF THE TIME. I’ve learned to let most of it go in one ear and out the other because I know that the way I parent my boys is best for them despite what others may think. Every child is different and so is every parent. What’s best for one might not be for another and it’s our job as mothers to decide. I completely agree, mothers are unnecessarily mean to each other and I’m trying my hardest to turn that around. We should be supporting each other because being a mother is damn hard work! I think you are doing a great job, Jenna and Grayson is such a cutie and looks so happy! Being a boy mama is the absolute best and I wouldn’t trade the toy trucks for anything. I’ve enjoyed reading your posts about your journey through the ups and downs of motherhood and I sincerely hope you keep updating! Have a great weekend!
Sabrina
January 29, 2015 at 8:55 amLove your honest intro.
And I love being a boy mom too. It’s actually been really strange for me to think that soon I will have 1 boy and 2 girls. How am I going to handle that?!
Stef
January 29, 2015 at 8:55 amThank you for sharing!! I’m a first time mom too– I have almost ten month old twin girls and being a Mom is HARD work. Amazing and an honor but by far the most difficult job there is. We should be here to support each other, not rip each other down. Your baby boy looks so sweet and you look so happy! Don’t let the haters get you down.
Sharon P
February 12, 2015 at 5:16 amHi Stef! I am a first-time mom with 9 month old twin boys. Life can be challenging but so fun and loving at the same time. Don’t you feel like having twins is getting easier around this time?? My guys are playing with each other and having a ball. Congrats on surviving twin-mama hood thus far! 🙂
Lauren
January 29, 2015 at 10:06 amGreat post! Keep writing and we will keep reading!!
Chelsea @ Designs on Dinner
January 29, 2015 at 10:10 amI keep wondering if this “mom judging” is a new phenomenon–I think the internet has made it easier for people to judge others, and I find it really disheartening. The last thing any mom needs is to feel bad about the way she (and her spouse, significant other, etc.) are raising a child they love dearly.
Meliss
January 29, 2015 at 10:28 amI love your baby updates – you have such an honest and beautiful way of expressing what motherhood is like. As I am currently 10 and 1/2 weeks pregnant (after a very long struggle involving fertility treatments) I especially love to see these posts 🙂 keep doing what you to best!!!
Lauren C
January 29, 2015 at 11:04 amI am really glad you finally wrote what you did in the first three paragraphs.
Alli
January 29, 2015 at 2:33 pmAMEN! I’ve been waiting for this post!! (And would have loved to write it myself).. I follow a lot of blogs and have never seen followers as rude as some of the ladies on here. It’s unbelievable! Way to go Jenna for speaking up!
Catharina
January 29, 2015 at 11:18 amI have really enjoyed following along on your journey through pregnancy and motherhood, please continue to post about these topics 🙂 I am just about a year behind you – my first baby is due in April – and your posts have been interesting, insightful and have gotten me even more excited about this baby (if that’s even possible). I also love what you wrote about being a boy mom. We aren’t finding out the baby’s sex before birth, but my gut feeling says boy and I am so looking forward to it all. All the best to you and your family!
Nic G
January 29, 2015 at 11:21 amThanks Jenna! I am a mother of 9 month old twin girls and I find it irresponsible for other mothers/women to be judgmental of each other…we are all just trying to do best by our families. The internet makes it so easy for people to send out hate anonymously. What ever happened to love?
Kate
January 29, 2015 at 12:22 pmHi Jenna, I’ve never commented before but really enjoy your blog and felt compelled to write after this post. I have two kids – a 12 year old boy and 10 year old girl – and I love your sweet posts about Grayson. My son was also a HUGE baby and Grayson reminds me of my baby boy (I tell him all the time that even though he’s 5’7″ and almost a teenager, he’ll always be my baby!). I appreciate how much the newness of this little angel – and everything that comes with being a mom – is so special to you. The moms out there that judge and criticize are just saying things out of their own insecurity. I’m a super-structured Type A mom and yet I love to see how other moms do things differently. Like you said, we’re all doing the best that we can in the ways we know how, so we need to just give each other a break. And maybe be open and receptive to seeing how other people’s parenting can inspire us too. I know I don’t have all the answers. No one does.
Hope
January 29, 2015 at 12:36 pmI love your blog and have read it since you were SO much younger, and still in FL going to school… of course, I was a lot younger then too. I am not a mom, but believe in all of us supporting one another in our journeys on this earth so long as we are not harming any other living thing. I so love your posts about motherhood, and photos of your precious little man. It gives me hope to hear of wonderful mothers raising sons. I have read your blog so long due to your honesty and sure hope you never change. I did miss when you were not posting more often, and love that you are now. It would be wonderful to hear sometime about what your diet it like now and what you eat on an average day and what your exercise is like now. Thank you!!
SBlair
January 29, 2015 at 1:09 pmHey Jenna! I don’t what kind of negative posts you’ve been getting, but it reminds me of when I was a first time mother. EVERBODY was telling me how to do it…and everybody did it differently! I didn’t know what I was doing and I was so freaked out. I was sure I was failing! He was supposed to be off his bottle by this time and potty-trained by this time and this is what you do for colic – no! this is what you do! For all the stress it was causing me I learned that he pretty much reached his milestones in his own good time and way and we pretty much figured things out ourselves. I learned a lot and I had a lot more confidence for the next baby. I love all your posts – don’t be intimidated! You’re doing a great job and I love all the cool products they have out now for babies. Keep writing boldly!
Mia
January 29, 2015 at 1:26 pmWell said, I second every word you said about this whole mothers politics, I’m first time mom for wonderful boy too, he is 3 months old, and I can’t tell you how many things I heard and I thought how insensitive and judgmental is that and sadly were from moms , they hit you hard when you need support and help more than anytime in your life.
Your baby boy is adorable , can I ask you please where did you get the Starbucks bib 😉
Alison
January 29, 2015 at 1:38 pmI’m not sure what people could even find to criticize! From the outside, it looks like you are a fantastic mom and 110% devoted to Grayson. People are probably just jealous — truly. I enjoyed your book and I enjoy your blog. You will always have far more fans than haters so please keep writing.
Kelly B
January 29, 2015 at 2:12 pmI always enjoy reading your blog so much! Even though I don’t have kids yet, I love the baby updates and you always help me think of things I’d like to do once I have my own children! Glad you can shake off the negativity, keep the posts coming 🙂
Samantha
January 29, 2015 at 2:24 pmI’m not a mother but my sister is and she has THE BEST attitude about the stupid mommy wars: if someone makes a choice, they want everyone else to make it so they can feel right about it. It’s much harder to just stand by your own choice and allow other people to make their choices. So you hang in there with all that stupidity. Your little boy is adorable and your blog is lovely.
DessertForTwo
January 29, 2015 at 2:44 pmPlease don’t ever stop posting about motherhood. Send the trolls my way, and I’ll handle them. You have a healthy, happy, adorable baby–you are doing a fantastic job!
Much love,
Christina
Meg Bollenback
January 29, 2015 at 3:20 pmHey Jenna – I’ve been a reader of yours since the days of you posting what you ate, which in a way seems like forever ago and at the same time it doesn’t. I’m not a mom yet, hopefully will be one day, but have to admit that I see the bullying already b/c I read a few food/mommy/lifestyle blogs and many of those writers have said the same thing. It’s really sad because it’s a whole other playing field of cyber bullying that happens between adults. It may not be completely at the level of what’s happening with school-age kids (or maybe it is, and it’s just that the people that are being bullied are stronger/better able to handle the criticism due to age/life stage), but regardless of that…it’s ridiculous. I’m a firm believer in standing on your own two feet and doing what you want to do or feels right vs. what other people say. Anyone who criticizes likely has some insecurities that they need to work through or needs to just understand that there is no one right way to do most things in the world…whether it’s being a mom, being a cook, being a blogger, etc. You have to do what’s right for you. So, that’s a long way of saying kudos — you posted your thoughts clearly and gracefully! Keep on writing…the people worth writing for will stick around. 🙂
Jessica
January 29, 2015 at 6:25 pmThis is one of my favorite posts because is honestly so true. Woman, especially mothers, are so hard on each other. I don’t understand why because we all go through the same hardships. Now that I am a mom I totally get why parents do what they have to do. Being a parent is so hard and we all need to support each other. I would rather you keep the honesty and inspiration because I am over the fakeness.
HM
January 29, 2015 at 6:38 pmYour blog and what you write is amazing. It is inspiring and honest and that is a rare thing to come by. I am not a mother yet (hopefully some time soon) but I am a labor and delivery nurse and I sometimes recommend your blog for some new moms to read. You have good advice and you are non-judgmental which is what every new mom needs…or even moms who have multiple children! Grayson seems like such a happy boy and he wouldn’t be that way if it were not for his loving parents! Keep doing what you are doing and soak up every beautiful moment!
Flower Patch Farmgirl
January 29, 2015 at 6:54 pmI love you.
Keep on trucking.
I read a quote recently, “I’d rather write for myself and risk losing some of my audience than write for my audience and risk losing some of myself.”
YES! FIST PUMP!!!!!
Kim
January 29, 2015 at 6:54 pmYou do what you need to in order to care for your child! My “baby” is about to graduate from high school, but I love to read your baby posts. They make me miss those days with my boy. The mommy wars have and always will rage on. I’ll never forget the day almost 20 years ago when my good friend told me I was a bad mom because I chose to work outside of the home rather than stay home with my kids. We all do whatever it takes to make our family work. Keep posting, so we can watch Grayson grow!
Corie
January 29, 2015 at 7:59 pmI can relate to very few of the mothering choices that you make compared to the choices I have made in raising babies, but I no less appreciate hearing another perspective. Thanks for sharing!
Louise
January 30, 2015 at 5:15 amI like his haircut : )
Sarah
January 30, 2015 at 5:48 amThank you for this! Your blog is the first I visit every morning. My little guy is 2 weeks older than Grayson and have loved following every single post.
It takes so much time and energy to read a blog and go snark on it. Fill your day with better things, to lift each other up and make others feel good. Isn’t that what life is about?
Dana
January 30, 2015 at 6:32 amGood for you, mama!! I literally almost felt like applauding you at my desk this morning for sticking to your guns with this post/topic! And everything you said, I couldn’t agree more! My daughter is almost a year old (3/3). I cry thinking about it. She already resembles a two yr old. Time goes crazy fast and I’m just so happy you’re soaking it all up!
Grayson is SO handsome! Keep doing your thing!
Amy J
January 30, 2015 at 7:08 amThe bottom line is, we were all raised by different mothers and have behaviors that work for us and some that don’t. I believe our ultimate goal as mothers is to raise a child who can confidently go out into this world and be positive and productive, while not losing sight of who we are as an individual. Keep doing what you’re doing, obviously Grayson is a happy, thriving baby.
Paula
January 30, 2015 at 7:39 amPlease remember there are way more lovers of your blog than haters. When I need a lift up I remember your blog and the pics of Grayson. He makes me smile. And I feel good again. You have a great life and thanks for sharing.
Melissa
January 30, 2015 at 8:20 amI think women are often too hard on one another, I am sorry people feel the need to criticize your writings. I for one LOVE everything about your blog! We are about the same age, I was married last year and we are expecting our first baby in April, your blog is one of my favorite to read for recipes, life, baby ideas, exercise, clothes, etc. please don’t change anything about your writings and don’t spend one moment thinking about the critics. Everyone has the choice of what to read and the fact that they don’t enjoy your blog and make a point to write a negative comment shows that they are just not nice people. Grayson is the cutest and we plan on utilizing many of your parenting tips, tricks with our little person. I can’t wait to be a mommy! Thanks for your wonderful blog, please don’t change a thing.
Krissy
January 30, 2015 at 9:36 amI love what you posted here. I have a similar post on my own blog. There was a post about breastfeeding somewhere which basically claimed if you stop (or never start) you’re just lazy. Boggles my mind that generalizations are made like that. It’s why I would be very hesitant to switch my blog to something more motherhood related. It is horrible how women can treat each other sometimes. That said, this boy mom shares your sentiments exactly. I thought I’d miss out on all the ribbons and bows but would not change a single thing. And you think it’s amazing now – wait till he starts talking. My 3 year old cracks me up and fascinates me daily!! Enjoy every moment.
Heidi
January 30, 2015 at 9:57 amNot to be another negative naysayer…but what about turning off the comments? When you say “I’m not looking for feedback!” but leave the comments on, what I really hear is that you aren’t looking for negative feedback. I totally get it (and agree!) that you don’t want other people to tell you how to parent. That is why I keep my parenting choices off-line–though people still chime in occasionally in person, I imagine it is certainly not the extent to what you get. So what if you just don’t give them the opportunity and turn off comments? To me it seems like you want to have praise and comments on how cute you and Grayson are and all of that. But I think it is a little…juvenile? to only want positive affirmations of your life choices. I think there are two more mature approaches here–either be confident in your parenting choices and let the criticism roll off your back when you get those comments, or ask for no comments at all (by turning off comments).
Karen
February 2, 2015 at 3:14 pmI strongly disagree (respectfully). I would hate to read a blogger who doesn’t interact with his/her readers, and the way Jenna interacts with us is through the comment section. She’s very open to answering questions which is GREAT for new moms that want product recommendations, ideas, etc. The comment section is also a good place for readers to help each other out–I’ve seen many discussions started here.
All that to say–enabling a comment section is NOT necessarily saying “I want positive feedback! Tell me how cute we are! Give me affirmation!” …there’s much more to it. And I don’t think Jenna has ever asked for those things. The only thing she asked is for people to drop the rude comments, and to that I say, good for you. Some of the commenters on here can be completely ridiculous .
melissa @fosterandfeed.com
January 30, 2015 at 11:08 amI am at a similar stage as you and have always looked forward to reading your posts about motherhood. It is amazing how much we each grow in these early months as a new family and I hope you continue to share your journey.
Heather
January 30, 2015 at 11:45 amJenna. Please realize that for all the “haters” there are many more ” lovers” who enjoy all your posts! As a fellow mom, I have 4 kiddos, I have come to realize that sometimes others who aren’t doing things as you do may feel a bit threatened by different approaches to parenting. The negative comments from them are a reflection of their attitudes, not a reflection on the job you are doing with your precious family. Don’t take their comments to heart. As a mom, you know what is best for your family. Keep up the good work, I enjoy all your blogs!
Luv What You Do
January 30, 2015 at 3:24 pmI don’t have kids but have heard of this ‘mommy war’ stuff even in the elementary schools. It’s quite a competition. I agree as women we should support each other and acknowledge that we all make our own choices and that is okay!
Jen@jpabstfitness
January 31, 2015 at 2:37 amFreaking mommy wars- drives me insane. Listen- I don’t care how anyone feeds, clothes, diapers or pretty much anything else with their child/children. Just feed them, keep them dressed and in diapers when needed. Easy freaking peasy. I have 4 kids, for the most part I stopped giving a crap what people think about me or my parenting- we’ve all survived my parenting so far, hopefully I’m doing something right 😉 But there are times when I do the same thing “I can’t post that, someone will think this…, etc.” But in the end, it really doesn’t matter. Your sweet little guy is so adorable and looks to be the same age as my youngest- she’ll be 10 months on the 8th.
Have a great weekend 🙂
Renae
January 31, 2015 at 6:38 amI so needed to read this this morning. I have an 8 month old son & I also cannot avoid the hurtful judgment that other moms pass onto me; intentional or not, it still hurts.
I have been following your blog for awhile and have enjoyed comparing the similar stages your son & my son are going through! I have even found myself using some of your advice at times. I especially enjoy reading about your baby wearing.
You’re doing such a good job! And motherhood looks great on you! 🙂
Leslie Means
January 31, 2015 at 12:16 pmOh my goodness – he is so sweet! Love the pics and the updates and the recipes. Keep ’em coming. 😉 You’re one of my favorites!
Rachel
January 31, 2015 at 1:29 pmI’m a mom of 5 kids and I can tell you, the ‘mommy wars’ stuff really does get so much easier. I really think it’s a first-time parent thing (maaaaybe 2nd time parent) but really no one cares. It’s so funny because with my first I felt so judged and I parent my 5th very similarly and I don’t feel judged at all. Maybe in part because no one really gives me advice anymore and that does make being a first time parent soo hard. SO hard. I am so glad not to be a first time parent!
I do think, when it comes to things like feeding babies on a schedule, cry-it-out, spanking etc – those are just controversial issues – similar to religion and politics. Sure, you have every right to talk about who you want to vote for – but then don’t be surprised if you get both negative and positive feedback. Polarizing issues just illicit that kind of feedback. So if you are looking to avoid controversy on your blog, you may want to avoid those more controversial topics – like scheduled feedings. Also, there are many bloggers who intentionally write provocative posts in order to generate/drive more traffic to their blog. So it seems some bloggers like that kind of debate.
You have learned so early on to enjoy your boy. Such a blessing! You will never ever regret that! 🙂
Lindsey
February 2, 2015 at 3:23 pmJenna, she makes a very good point. I enjoy reading about your parenting style, but many of your topics ARE controversial. And often, bloggers who choose to write about controversial topics actually WANT to spring a debate. With this post you made it clear that you write to inform, not debate, so maybe that will help! Hopefully people will be respectful.
Frannie
January 31, 2015 at 6:42 pmI have been reading your blog since 2008 🙂 I was sad when you stopped your frequent life updates and just switched to recipes (totally understand your need for privacy and love the recipes), but I hung in there because your blog was the first blog I started reading. All that to say, I love your motherhood/life updates. I have a 10 month old and your honesty about raising a baby is refreshing. Thank you for being so genuine and open about your highs and lows of being a mom. There are days I NEED to know that I’m not alone in this. I also get some great ideas for baby gear and toys from your blog and instagram as well. Keep up the good work!
SusieQonline 2
January 31, 2015 at 7:02 pmThanks for being yourself, Jenna, and expressing honestly what you are going through and feeling about motherhood. It is a challenging, rewarding, unexpected experience. Everyone is different. Ignore the crazies!!
Melissa
February 1, 2015 at 6:21 amHi Jenna! I am a longtime reader and fan of your blog. In fact, I’m making your buffalo chicken dip for the game today! I have only commented a few times in the past, but this post spoke to me and I wanted to let you know that. I don’t understand the mommy wars thing. I really don’t understand why women can be so hard on each other in general. I love the positivity and lightheartedness you bring to the blog world. I’m not religious, nor am I a mother. Those types of posts aren’t my favorite, but I still find myself reading everything you write, because I love your style and your photos. I can appreciate the need to disconnect from time to time, and applaud you for doing so. Several of your recipes are in regular rotation at my house, so I’ll just keep exploring the older posts on your blog and relish when you post a new recipe. I loved the quote you posted today. I hope you write what’s meaningful to you, and don’t change your style just to try to please everyone else. It sounds like you are a wonderful wife, mother, daughter and chef. Keep up the good work and know that you have supporters around the globe. Thanks for all you do for us!
natalie
February 1, 2015 at 6:29 amI think that moms all feel like what they do is best. It worked for them, so it should be shared and, then, is clearly better than what another mother is doing. Trust your gut and ignore all the unsolicited advice. You’re doing great.
Susan
February 1, 2015 at 4:03 pmI don’t read the comments often b/c I really only care about reading your posts, which I’ve been doing for years (from before I became a mom of 2), and which I love. We’re pretty like-minded so maybe it’s just that I feel like you’re relateable, but I also appreciate hearing different perspectives too. So I just want to add to the love posts and say that Grayson is adorable – that last picture – so sweet! Keep up the good work, lady!
Jane
February 1, 2015 at 6:21 pmJenna, so glad you are taking the time to enjoy your baby! It is a gift that can never be replaced. Hearing about the Mom wars, makes me sad. I have to admit I was surrounded by such great support through all the stages of both my boys lives. Enjoy them as babies, mine are now 18 and 12, and although I love as much now as I did when the were babies. There are days when I long for the days when it was all easy to make them laugh playing peek a boo, and sadness and hurt was solved with a kiss, a Band-Aid and snuggling with a story. Keep following your instincts, you will be just fine. They do not come with a handbook, so as mother we do the best we can.
Tamara @ A Side Of Dessert
February 2, 2015 at 6:14 amWhat a beautiful post! You seem like an awesome mommy and Grayson is very lucky to have you!
Weekly sparks
February 2, 2015 at 7:58 am[…] messy motherhood, chapter two […]
Becca
February 2, 2015 at 9:50 amI think you’re doing a lovely job! Hi five.
ucity88
February 2, 2015 at 12:53 pm“It’s hit me hard and unexpected…when I’m buying play dinosaurs, jammies with trucks on them or just curled up nursing.”
You can buy play dinosaurs, and jammies with trucks on them for a girl too, you know? 😉
Chantal
February 2, 2015 at 3:20 pmJust remember that with the changing of your posts, as you may lose some readers you also gain some. I’ve been reading since before you were pregnant, and I had a little girl right before you (May 2nd). We had very similar pregnancies and birth stories and our babies are hitting their milestones at similar times, so I enjoy reading your blog more than I ever have. I come to your page specifically for your motherhood posts because for all of them I’m thinking ‘yes! Me too!’
Faith Moore
February 2, 2015 at 5:40 pmAmen, two snaps and a pop! Well said, thanks for sticking up for yourself and the Mother’s who have been insulted for being a loving Mother. It is a mean world out there, but thank God for blessing us with people like you to speak from the heart and mind. Trust that, those words you spoke will change lives for the better. You just force some of these Mother’s to look in the mirror, becuase while they are pointing out how you raise your child, they have four more fingers pointing back at their children.
Mark 12:31
And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.
Brittany
February 3, 2015 at 11:44 amI love this post! It was inspiring and encouraging to me! I am not a mother yet although my husband and I tried and discovered infertility issues. We may never be parents and we are 100% at peace with this. It was a lonnnnng road for me to be able to be at peace with this…
To be honest as time goes on and I’ve learned how to be content and grateful for what I have RIGHT NOW (childless) sometimes my desire to have no kids outweighs my desire to have them. It doesn’t mean I don’t have a desire to have kids but my life is Blessed where it is. I honestly don’t feel like anything or anyone is missing. My husband and I are already a family: just the two of us. Only God knows what lays ahead but I’m just content and thankful for what I have now. All I know is what I have right now and to always be in the future and wondering who is missing from our family is not really a good way to live. Its not being content…
I have a wonderful husband, family, health, roof over my head and more importantly my LORD AND SAVIOR Jesus…so many Blessings. Of course a child would be a wonderful Blessing and addition to our family but to always have a child raised above our heads as the ultimate Blessing in life really isn’t how I want to define my life, especially since I dont have children.Whether you cant have kids or choose not to have them, you shouldn’t be made to feel like your life is “less than” someone who has children. Sometimes I feel like this is the message society sends…
Life is and can be abundantly Blessed with or without children!
Another thing is when you don’t have children you are automatically classified as selfish. Judgment on childless people (as well as judgment on parents) needs to stop. We ALL fall short and can be selfish at times whether we have kids or not. Choosing to not have children does not make someone selfish. It is a choice they are making and shouldn’t define the kind of person they are.
This post just got me thinking and I wanted to be brave 🙂
Wish everyone the best on their personal live endeavors whether you are a parent or not 🙂 God Bless and keep being you! 🙂
Ashley
February 4, 2015 at 12:20 pmHi Jenna,
I’m not a mom (yet!), but I really do love reading your mommy posts. They are truly eye opening to how many different methods there are and what may work for one may not work for the other. I’m so happy that you pushed through those critics to write about your experiences being a mom. Good for you and keep sharing!
Lisa
February 4, 2015 at 5:16 pmI don’t really know about all this mommy war stuff…I had two children (they are still very young) and I did not feel that I was being judged or attacked. Of course I didn’t expose my personal life on the internet for all to see either….So my question is, is it really mommy wars? Or oversensitive new moms? Just a question. I think in the world we live today people are not allowed to express their opinions if it isn’t flattering. They are branded as judgemental and mean. Why not turn off the comments?? If you expose your life, your husband and your son for the world to see expect some different views. It’s not “mommy wars”
AshleyL
February 5, 2015 at 3:43 pmPlease do another day in the life post! Thanks!
Erin
February 6, 2015 at 8:57 amI love your honesty about motherhood and your willingness to put yourself out there, despite the critiscm you have received. Posts like this are why you are one of my favourite bloggers to read right now, please keep them coming.
Meredith
February 6, 2015 at 9:14 amKeep being you
kristen
February 6, 2015 at 9:47 amgreat post! it takes awhile to get the mommy confidence, but once you do, it changes everything. keep up the good work.
Katie
February 6, 2015 at 11:00 amI love Shauna Niequist! I am a freelance writer and food blogger, so you are speaking my language. And I am also the momma to 4 and have loved your blog since I first googled a recipe for carrot and ginger soup to make for a sick friend and it led me to your blog. Whenever you read a mean comment by someone, maybe you can just think instead of how I made your soup for a friend. That connection is why you do what you do! And if you have more kids, you won’t have time for the haters, it is an instant cure, not that you have all that much free time with sweet Grayson! God times things well and your first baby is where you break in your learning curve, which I think is totally the hardest time. Luckily they are so cute 🙂
Erin
February 6, 2015 at 2:10 pmMy daughter is just two weeks older than Grayson, and I agree it’s amazing how quickly they turn into little kids! I have been following your journey with your little boy since your pregnancy announcement (we had almost the exact due date!) and I have to say I have really enjoyed all of your parenting posts. I really hope you aren’t discouraged by the negative comments you have received on how you are raising your baby. In my experience, people feel the need to criticize when they are insecure about their own decisions. You obviously have a beautiful, happy, thriving family, and that is what is most important. I love reading different perspectives on raising children, because there is incredible diversity in the choices you can make as a parent, and what works for one baby will almost certainly not work for every other. But, we are all kind of flying by the seats of our pants, and working toward the same goal. New moms need support, not shaming! Keep on writing, please!
Susan
February 6, 2015 at 3:55 pmIgnore these women – maybe they will find another blog if they are so unhappy. They must be very jealous or they think they are perfect and it’s very sad that women treat others in this manner. It seems to be a form of being a bully. Just keep doing what you want to do – many of us enjoy your blog!
Brittni
February 7, 2015 at 2:36 amHi, Jenna! So, I’m definitely not usually one to comment on blog posts, but this post really stuck out to me! I have a little girl about 6 weeks older than Grayson, and I was just commenting to my husband how I didn’t think I could ever write a blog about my life because of how MEAN people can be! I love reading your posts on motherhood, and I actually started following your blog when I realized we were both pregnant at the same time. So anyway, well said! I honestly don’t know how anyone considers to know more about raising someone else’s child than their parents. I was a long-time nanny and babysitter, and my child is definitely unique from the dozens of kids I’ve interacted with in my life. I definitely understand not wanting to spark unsolicited advice or mean comments with future motherhood posts, but I hope you continue to write them because it’s nice knowing there are other mamas out there going through the same things! 🙂
Sandy T
February 7, 2015 at 6:27 pmYou are SO not judgmental! Let it all go. I, too, LOVED raising a little man. I had a daughter next and that was a totally different but unbelievable experience that I cherish. If you have a daughter, you will too!!!
jen
February 9, 2015 at 6:02 pmI felt like 9 months was when I hit my mom stride with both of mine too, and then it just keeps getting more fun! Love to hear how much you love your boy.
–From another girl who’s surprised by how much she loves being a boymom (and I love being my girl’s mom too,but that never caught me by surprise)
Jackie
February 9, 2015 at 9:37 pmlooove the starbucks bib!
http://www.ohmissjackie.blogspot.com
Chand
February 10, 2015 at 4:55 amJenna- you are in a different part of your life now and for the next 20 plus years. Be a mom. I’ll not be checking in as I’ve already done this and nothing new here. It was lovely following your adventures!
Karen
February 10, 2015 at 5:22 amJenna, The joy and love seen in the photos of you and Grayson says it all. Keep writing about whatever is in your heart, your mind, or in your kitchen! You’re doing great. I write to make sense of my experiences and then share my writing for the same reason as you, to connect and perhaps touch someone’s heart. You do that so well.
Stephanie @ Whole Health Dork
February 10, 2015 at 10:30 amGood for you for putting it all out there. I have no idea why anyone would judge another parent unless they were doing something to seriously jeopardize their child’s health and well-being (then again, that could also be subjective). I applaud you for sticking to your guns and hope you continue to do motherhood posts!
Mary
February 11, 2015 at 6:52 amYou go Girl!
Kelly
February 11, 2015 at 10:14 amI’m a brand new reader Jenna, and I’ve found myself catching up on all of your entries over the past several weeks! I’m a newlywed myself, and totally relate to the fact that you know that your life as you know it now has changed so much, and it only continues to change! I absolutely love everything you write…you’re so full of life and love!
P.S. Your little boy is way too adorable!!! 🙂
Jackie
February 11, 2015 at 10:45 am1) YES, YES, YES! Bravo.
2) Grayson is *the cutest* little man!
Sharon P
February 12, 2015 at 4:49 amI agree. Why are other mothers so mean and judgmental? Don’t let them get you down, and be true to yourself and your parenting style. You are clearly doing a great job — look at that happy baby boy!
Momofboys
February 14, 2015 at 5:20 pmI honestly think the ones who criticize are upset with themselves and point out flaws in other moms who they ‘think’ are doing it better, sweeter, calmer and/or smarter then themselves. When is all reality we are all just doing our best. Wish they could give themselves a break and just love being a parent.
Cheers!!!
Gemma
February 17, 2015 at 6:14 amWhat a great blog! I just found you on Bloglovin and this was the first post I saw. I’m not a mom (newlywed) but I love your writing style and think the article is great. Good for you for standing up against negativity and not letting it put you off. Your little boy is so cute!
Lindsay @ Lindsay Lately Blog
February 18, 2015 at 7:54 amJenna! I just love how real you are on here. It amazes me that women, especially mothers, would ever place judgement. We are meant to support and empower! And I will say, thank goodness for your honesty. I remember on the first few weeks when I was either crying or wondering if other people were having as hard of a time, I would read through your posts and find comfort that I wasn’t alone! So thank you, I admire your transparency. Everyone has a different journey. That doesn’t mean us as mothers love our children anymore or less.
Keep on writing! xx
Pam
February 18, 2015 at 2:54 pmJenna, thinking of the Taylor Swift song about haters gonna hate…you are adorable and you come across as a genuine & loving person! Please don’t stop blogging! xo
Jenna
February 20, 2015 at 9:13 amI miss your posts!! Please keep writing.
Stephanie A
February 20, 2015 at 10:43 amSooo does this mean your giving up blogging? Or? At first it didn’t really read that way but after an almost three week hiatus it’s getting weird..
Barbara
February 20, 2015 at 3:09 pmRight?!! I’m wondering the same thing. I hope not, Jenna!
jenna
February 22, 2015 at 2:52 pmNope, I am still here – we have all been really sick and Adam had surgery. Trying to catch up 🙂
Bobbi McCormick
March 4, 2015 at 1:52 pmOh Jenna! I love the Motherhood posts. I couldn’t agree more about how mean mothers to each other, so hard to handle…but you are so right! We don’t write for the haters, we write to connect and encourage. Love you girl! Love watching little G grow!!! You are such amazing MAMA!
Lisa
March 13, 2015 at 7:27 amThank you for writing honestly and candidly about your experiences with motherhood! I look to sites like these to gain perspective from other moms and cannot for the life of me understand why ANYONE, especially other moms can be so darn judgmental about everything. My little man is 7 months old and although I’ve experienced unsolicited advice and judgements upon me and my parenting style I am slowly starting to tune it all out. Yes I’m a new mom. Yes I’m going to make mistakes, but that’s part of being human and they are my mistakes to make. My motto is whatever works for you and your family! Thanks for these posts. There are some people out there who really appreciate them and do not pass judgement!
Katie
April 18, 2015 at 3:04 amLove your mommy posts!! One of my favorite things about your blog (and the blog of others that I have been following for years – Gina, Tina, etc) is that you girls have grown and changed just like I have – from being addicted to fitness and experiences in our 20’s, to weddings and now babies! I am following along with you as I go through the same things in life and I just love reading and feeling like “we are in this together” as mothers. Seriously, when I am up in the middle of the night nursing and feeling “disconnected” from the world, your blog and the blog of other mommas is what I read to get me through. Keep being yourself and writing about what’s going on in your life. Hiding or shying away from it wouldn’t be honest as to what you are going through and honesty is what people enjoy reading and connecting with.