A Season of Loss

Holly

Aw, Jenna. My heart goes out to you. No matter the reason, of courses your heart hurts but like all things, with time it will heal and you will be stronger than ever before. You are such a beautiful woman who is rich beyond her years in life, love, and knowledge. You have an army of support behind you :o)

Jennie in Wonderland

I hadn’t guessed, but I did wonder at the lack of news about Ryan. I’m so sad for you, Jenna, in the sense that you’ve been through SO MUCH already … but it almost seems like you’ve come through the fire and you’ll be ready for *anything*.

I hope you’ll be ok; be gentle with yourself, eat what you want (not that you don’t already!) surround yourself with caring people, and remember there are blog readers all over the world that are supporting and encouraging you through everything. Like a big cheerleading troupe!!! 😉

Hugs, bella.
xoxox

Sara

You can do it! Stay strong and know that there’s a bigger scheme of things: I once took a religion class that taught the “tapestry” concept — things may seem a mess on the ‘back,’ (our worldly side), but they’re perfect on His.

Simone

When it rains it pours! You are not alone in having a season of loss (actually for me it’s more like 3 years of loss but that’s another story). We all love you so dearly and you are right, God has something bigger and better planned for you and while right now it might seem as if life sucks, eventually after some time you will look back at the “big picture” and see that everything DID happen for a reason and be blessed to have experienced all that has made you the wonderful person you are today. I wish I could hug you in person but an air hug will just have to do. Remember: what goes around comes around. You are an awesome and caring woman and in time you are sure to be rewarded!

Jess

I hadn’t guessed but I noticed you weren’t talking about him very much. I hope you’re okay and that you just keep in mind everything will be okay! You’ll get through this because you’re strong and time heals all things! Hugs to you!

That omelet looks amazing though – yum!

MarathonVal

I’m so sorry that you are going through this Jenna. We will all be here for you to support you, and I know you will triumph through this because you are a strong woman of character and in the end you will be just fine. But in the meantime, we will all be thinking of you!

Katie

I’m so sorry for your loss! I know how it is when you are in denial about a relationship and keep putting on the bright face but it really isn’t working. The relief doesn’t make the loss any easier.
*hugs*

Errign

Hugs! The end of relationships are always tough, but you’re a strong woman and you will be fine :]

Abby

Hi Jenna,
I haven’t stopped in the blog for awhile, so I was unaware of the lack of Ryan info and had no idea. Even though you know it and even though everyone will tell you–it gets better.
What feels like the end of the world (or just super crappy) eventually gets better. It might not go away, but new and wonderful things will come in and present themselves that may have otherwise stayed hidden.

Chin up! Eat up! 🙂

Julie

Jenna, I had a bad feeling that this is what was bothering you. I am so sorry. Ending a relationship is always tough, but sometimes it’s for the best. Whatever is meant to be will be and everything will be okay. Right now it sucks, but it will get better.

Sarah

I am sorry for your loss. There are so many cliches people say when they hear about a break-up, none which provide any comfort. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to feel all the emotions.

The only way out is through.

Vanessa (Last Night's Leftovers)

I am sorry to hear that your relationship has ended. Big *hugs* to you! You’re a fantastic, strong woman and I know you’ll get through this. It can only get better, right?

Tammy (Defining Wellness)

Hi Jenna, I’m so sorry to hear about you and Ryan. I completely understand how difficult a break-up can be. Carter and I actually broke up several times before we ended up married . . . just food for thought. You never know where life is going to lead you. I understand the turmoil and the mixed emotions you are feeling, because after all, you did love this person for years. I hope your heart heals quickly. Thinking of you.

Coco

Jenna I am so sorry to hear about your loss. You are a powerful, strong, beautiful woman and I know that everything will bounce back and life will lead you on an amazing new life adventure filled with love and new experiences. I wish you all the best and I know that great things are in store for you!!!
PS: props for whippin out some real buttah!!!! Love and indulge in life!

Daria (Summer of the CSAs)

I’m so sorry Jenna; breakups are a tough thing to go through. Be kind to yourself and take care!

sirenjess

I’m so sorry Jenna. Take care of yourself. Breakups are hard but you’ll get through it. Everything happens for a reason. Stay strong and take care.

Colleen

I’m so sorry about your break up! 🙁 *Lots of love and hugs to you sweet Jenna!*

runjen

Jenna, I am so sorry. That is so hard. You are such a strong, smart woman and will get through this. Big Hugs.

Meghan

Take your losses as an opportunity to be thankful for the great times you were able to experience (with your brother and Ryan) and surround yourself with friends and family while you heal. Also take this as an opportunity to do things you may not have done otherwise!

Justy2003

Sorry to hear about you and Ryan…I’m sure it’s tough, but you’re a strong woman and you’ll get through it. And the bigger move on your own…could this possibly be out to Cali?! Either way, I’m sure big things are in your future!

Christie @ Quit Your Diet

I’m sorry you are having to go through so much. You are a bright, shining example of strong women and you will make it through this and come out even better on the other side. We are all rooting for you!

Runeatrepeat

I am super sorry about the breakup. I know how hard it is and wouldn’t wish that on anyone. Hang in there. Keep praying.

Emily (Healthy Fit Mama)

Hang in there! You’ll get through this. Perhaps this is just part of a bigger plan for you. 🙂

katie

Jenna- I’m so sorry to hear that. I had no idea and for some reason assumed your funk had to do with a wine job in California…I wish it was that simple 🙂 You still have managed to put on an upbeat face to the blog world which is admirable, but don’t be afraid to fall apart in private when you need to. Your readers sure do love and support you and will help you get through it, as will your reading, writing, running, and wonderful parents and real life friends. Best of luck to you 🙂

Christin

My heart hurts for you, Jenna. I know this must be so hard. Just keep looking to Him. I will be praying for you. 🙂

Catherine

I’m so sorry to hear about the breakup! You’re such a strong person, and you have the right attitude in focusing on yourself & following God’s plan. Hugs!

Jenna

Sending lots of hugs your way.

monica

“Its truly been a season of loss over the past few months but I know without a doubt that God has a larger plan in mind and its way more awesome than I could even begin to fathom.”

You are an eloquent woman who has even found the ‘right’ way to capture this. I am going to type this statement up and carry it with me. Sometimes it is really important to focus on the big picture, but so hard to do when you keep getting hit with rotten stuff. I know big things are coming your way! You are in our thoughts and prayers during this rocky time.

Hannah Hawley

My heart goes out to you. I am sending lots of healing energy your way.

Lara (Thinspired)

Hugs to you, Jenna. This time will pass. There are big things ahead for you <3

Samantha

I agree with Quinn #30. Loss, especially big losses are sooo hard but they can come with a great chance to change things up and learn something new about yourself. You’re an incredible person and have a great support system in your blog. We all adore you and are here to listen if you need it. Take time to heal, don’t feel obligated. *hugs!*

karla

wow, i never comment but i thought i should today…im so sorry.
i just went through (or i am going through a break up)…my boyfriend and i lived together for 2 years and spent 6 months travelling around the world together and then he broke up with me.
So…i dont know if that helps….but its been a month and i feel a thousand times better- im actually happy and excited about the future.
You have been so strong with everything so im sure you will be okay, but let yourself be in pain and sad…its a part of human nature, a necessary emotion.
I believe we loose a little piece of our heart with every person we date…but we gain so much that its hard not to let yourself fall in love again.
big loving hug
karla

Life's Too Short to Eat Fat Free Cheese

I’m so sorry to hear about you and Ryan. It’s definitely tough. My ex and I split after 2.5 years last fall, so I know how hard it must be. Hang in there!

Shannon (The Daily Balance)

HUGS.

As crazy as it may sound (and cliche!) just remember everything happens for a reason 😉 Like you said, it’s in God’s hands, and I’m sure amazing things are planned for you, Jenna 😉

Kim

Oh, honey… I know how hard it is, but it is SO AMAZING that, at your young age, you are already strong enough to recognize God’s bigger plan and do what is right for you (even if it means pain in the short-term.) Like you said, when the universe closes a door, it opens up a window, and I think we’re all just waiting for our fabulous Miss Jenna to take over the world 😉

Sarah

I have no eloquent words to share, but I am sorry. It must be very hard for you. Especially because you chose to share it with all of us.

Annie

Jenna,
I’m really sorry to hear about you and Ryan. Whatever the reason for your break-up, it’s never easy. Time heals all wounds so you just have to ride it out. I’ll be sending positive energy your way!
Annie

Lola

Man oh man, Jenna. What a turbulent few months you’ve had! Both good and bad. Here’s a favorite cliche: with crisis brings opportunity. You’re doing an incredible job keeping it together – still writing on the blog, eating normally, talking with friends and family, exercising, practicing your faith. I think it would be far too easy for me to just drop everything and endulge myself in my own self-pity fest. Just by continuing these seemingly small, simple things, you’re showing how strong and level-headed you are. You have an amazingly strong foundation and you haven’t let these rocky waters knock you down or uproot you and take with them down a destructive path. You’re an incredible woman and I feel happy to “know” you through the blog.

Stepf

Jenna,
I’m so sorry. I’ve been there, and it’s hard. You will get through it. You’re strong and capable. You’re also quite young, with endless opportunities ahead of you. Focus on your bright, bright future!
xoxo
Stepfanie

Clara

Dear Jenna,
Even though a breakup may end up the best for both involved in the end longterm,a relationship ending involves a grieving period for sure.Thinking of you as you go through this,through both the sad gut wrenching moments of memories and to the highs and excitement of new chapters and paths that will open up to you.
Wishingboth you and ryan the very best in your lives ,hope somehow it’s possible not to harbour to much pain between you both.
I remember reading about Ryan being there all night for you and your brother when John passed. You both seem like wonderful people,and sometimes things are not meant to be but are still meant to have been part of our life’s paths and experiences.
In the end, none of this is any of our business,but because you are part of our daily lives we feel a connection and a caring to you,your family and pets,and Ryan.
We wish you all the most joyous of lives ahead.

Nicole

You have such a wonderful attitude, I know you’ll come out ahead. The hardest part that I always felt about breaking up was that you know you’ll get over them someday, it’s just waiting for that day that seems so hard. Keep your head up. You’re beautiful and an inspiration!

Allison

You are one tough cookie, and an inspiration to the 1000’s of women who read your blog. I am a true believer that everything happens for a reason, and that GREAT things are coming your way. **hugs**

Michelle @ Find Your Balance

Best of luck moving forward. When one door closes another one always opens!

Kristin @ Iowa Girl Eats

Ugh, I’m sorry Jenna. Breaking up is NEVER easy. You’re right though. He has a plan for you and would never give you more than you can bear. Things can only go up from here!

Ashley

You know what they say and these may be my favorite words to live by.

“Every end is a new beginning.”

Keep your chin up girl. Your a fantastic person!

Allie Katie

I am so sorry, Jenna. My prayers have been with you for the last few months, and I’m continuing to send them your way. Like I said in my email, just PROMISE us you won’t stop yoga-ing. It seems to make you so happy. If you stop yoga-ing you have a blog full of readers to answer to, and we will send the wrath :).
xoxo

Leila

easy to say, hard to live, but I like to believe things do happen for a reason, including the terrible and hard to deal with. I think that once again, you’ve shown a strength and also the fact that someone can’t always be “the strong one.” Continue to believe Jenna and remember to rely on those who love you.

Clare

I am SO sorry, Jenna. Breakups can be devastating. One day at a time. I broke up with a boyfriend of 4 years in March, and I’ll be honest, it still sucks sometimes. Your girlfriends and family and blog world will get you through it though!

Angelea (Cabin Fever Feast)

Hugs, Jenna.

The winds of change are definitely blowing in for you. It may feel like a hurricane right now, but I see wonderful things ahead for you. You can weather this storm!

andmarie

I’m so sorry! Breakups suck! Sending good thoughts your way!

*Andrea*

so sorry jenna! breakups are hard 🙁 glad that you have time to yourself though and can focus on YOUR needs and aspirations! you are AMAZING

Madelin @ What is for breakfast?

Hi Jenna
What a tough year you have had. I have been reading your blog since early this year and am constantly amazed at your strength since your brother passed and now in dealing with the end of your relationship. As one reader said above, most of us would crumble into self pity but you are keeping up with your exercise and healthy eating and your positive attitude shines through to us. You are inspiring. Be sure to take more “breathers” when you need them and good luck for the future!

Michelle

This is such a sad thing, and I’m sure it’s devastating to you. You are a strong, confident, talented, and beautiful woman, and you will find your path in life soon. GOOD LUCK Jenna, you can do this!! 🙂

Meredith (Pursuing Balance)

Hang in there! Everything happens for a reason, even if we can’t immediately see the purpose in it. You’re a strong woman, and I am sure that wonderful things in life await you! :hugs:

Chocolate Shoestrings

You are a brave woman Jenna. I admire your strength. Believe it or not, I am in a very similar situation, and do not have half the courage and grace you possess. I know bigger and better things are just around the corner. Focus on yourself now girl, and I promise life will take you to the most unpleasant of places before they take you to the most wonderful. Hang in there! I really admire your outlook!

Paige

Jenna,

My heart breaks for you, as I went through a tough breakup at your age. I was totally devastated at the time, but God turned that season of loss into a time of reflection on HIM and I was stronger and better when i came out of it. (oh, and when the timing was perfect, I met the love of my life).

Praying for you in Alabama!

Abbie

Hang in there sweetie! You are stronger than anyone I know and you will get through this hard time as well. Hugs to you!

Meggilizz--Meggie's Munchies

BIG HUGS to you Jenna!!!!!!!!! There’s a better plan for you in the works 😀

Danielle C.

Aww Jenna, I’m so sorry to hear this. I’m glad you have such a positive attitude and know that everything happens for a reason and that you will come out of this stronger than ever. Take it easy lady, we’re all out here for you if you need a kind ear.

Theresa

Hey Jenna, I read your blog every day, but rarely comment (but not for any particular reason!) and when you said yesterday “sometimes even when you know you made the right decision, the acceptance of it can be even more difficult than if you were wrong” I really felt this had something to do with your relationship…I knew JUST WHAT YOU MEANT!! I lived with my boyfriend for 4.5 years, with the plan being one day we would get married. We broke up 3 months ago, and it was very hard to have to pack up my life and move out, back to my parents, and find a new life for myself. As there was not one huge reason I left the relationship, it made it harder for me not to question it. However, I KNOW. Somewhere, deep in my heart and soul, I KNOW. Even if my brain doesn’t want to believe it. And, believe me, my brain and my heart have fought me. But I have had so much fun finding my way through these last few months!! Ups and downs, of course, but I truly believe you are a surviver and will get through anything. Especially when you have such a support system all around you! I’ll be checking in everyday and sending good thoughts your way!

Kelly

Jenna- I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason – you are strong, and you will get through this!

Danielle

So sorry Jenna!
It will get easier with time. You are such a strong positive inspriational woman!

Brea

I can relate to the pain and heartache of loss in many different ways. Allow yourself to feel every emotion, that seems to work for me. My thoughts and prayers are with you!

HeatherBakes

Oh Jenna, I’m so sorry to hear about the breakup. But as so many of the comments have said (you have smart readers!), you are such a strong person and everything truly happens for a reason- though I know it still sucks at the time. I’ll be thinking of you!

Rose

My goodness… I’m really, really sorry to hear of this news. I will be keeping you in my thoughts – for sure.

If there is anything I can ever do, please let me know. You’ve been going through such a rough time of it lately… I just wish I could help somehow…

Jessica

Wow Jenna, I’m so sorry to hear about your break up. I am once again amazed at your strength and courage in the face of loss. You really are an inspiration. In fact, you said this a while back on the blog and I kept it. At the time, it was just something that I thought was incredibly true and I wanted to remember it. Then, about 3 weeks ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years and I found this quote you said. I printed it and gosh, probably read it many many times a day that first week and I can’t even express to you how much it helped me and how much it encouraged me. You said – “There is no such thing as bad timing because God’s timing is always perfect. If you feel completely overwhelmed and wonder why all of this is on your shoulders and you can’t possibly go on, remember that God’s hand is always at work. There will often be a crisis that God uses to change our direction for what He has planned for us. And, I promise, what He has planned for us is always better than what WE have planned for us.” I keep telling myself that it is God’s will and there is a plan that he has for us that we can’t see and sometimes we can’t understand why we have to go through stuff, but one day it will all be clear, or not, but there is a reason for everything. I don’t know what happened between you and Ryan but I do know that you are a smart and strong woman and you will get through it. I look back on my life now and all of the big things that have happened, good or bad, really have happened for a reason and I would not be who I am today without them. I know that you will come out of this even stronger than you are now. I also really do believe that God has great and amazing things in store for you. Look to the future and all of the possibilities it holds – you can do ANYTHING! And even though most of us who read your blog have never met you or each other, we are all behind you 110%. And I know that no matter what anyone says to you, the hurt only gets better with time. The relationship I was in was not good for me but I was too in love, or atleast what I thought was love, to realize it and to get out. I know that it was only through God that I was able to finally end it. And these 3 weeks have been the hardest but the best weeks of my life. For the first time in a long time, I can focus on me and do what makes myself happy for a while. That may sound selfish to some people but everyone needs a little me time now and then. It still hurts and I still have my bad days but on most days, i’m just excited about what the future holds. I wish you the best!
-Jessica

southern graces

Oh Jenna, I am sending hugs and prayers your way. I know how it feels to end a long term relationship. But, keep praying because God definitely has good things to come and it does all work out!
You are such a bright girl and I know you will pop right out of this!
I am loving that breakfast…simple egg omelet. Perfect, i bet?
Happy Thursday!!!!

Beth

I subscribe to your blog via my Google Reader, so I don’t often come over to comment, but I just want to say that I am sorry to hear about the end of your relationship. However, things do get easier..after my last breakup, I finally moved out on my own and discovered that living alone was a breath of fresh air. And while I was enjoying my own company I met the man who I’m now getting married to. So sometimes the best things happen when you make a big leap like this. Head up, things will get better :o)

Kate

Hi Jenna,

Keep your head up — it is obvious that you are an extremely strong person. Break-ups are so hard……they say that people come into our lives for a reason and a season..and once we’ve learned all we can from these people, it is time for the relationship to end….and for us to move on …..opening ourselves up to the possibility of a new relationship with someone who has much to offer and teach us. This journey is never easy, but I can tell that you know that you will be where you’re supposed to be when all is said and done. Hugs, Kate:)

MPP

Jenna, I’m so sorry to hear about this sad news. I will say an extra prayer for you today. It’s hard but you’ll get through it!

~carolyn~

It must be hard to have to share so much with all of us. I do hope that in a way it is a little bit therapeutic for you. Take care of yourself and focus on that half marathon in San Francisco. It looks like I will be running it as well…any blog reader meet ups planned?

Jennifer

Sending good thoughts your way, life is never meant to be easy and we learn from our experiences and GROW! Now is your time to grow and I look forward to see what the future holds for you! Stay strong Jenna!

Ashley

Breakups are tough! And suck! I’m Sorry this happend. I have been there and I am sure a bunch of the ladies on here have too. I just cant imagine having the energy to blog while dealing with it. To me, you seem to know youself so well and know what you want and know you are going to get it someday. I am envious. There is something better out there for ya which is why this happend. Whether its another man or a fab job, I have no doubt that you will come out one top.
Hang in there Jenna…..It just takes a little while to see the light.
=)
Ashley

chandra h

jenna. I don’t comment that much, but I read your blog every day and I honestly feel like you are a friend. I guess I should comment more then, huh 🙂 hehe.
I am so, so sorry. I don’t know you personally, but my heart still aches for you and I wish I could help in some way. I’m just coming out of some rocky times in a relationship too and that feeling of loss that threatens to overtake you is HELL, and I am so so sorry for what you are going through. your faith in God is so inspiring. keep writing. you’re amazing.

♥,
chandra

anabel

straight up you’re one of the strongest people i know

Sheri

Jenna, so sorry to hear about your breakup. They are never easy and it is tough. Hang in there girl and take care of yourself!

M

Hi Jenna, I’m a long time reader but I’ve only commented a couple times. I just wanted to say that as hard as this time may be, do not doubt yourself or your decisions. You are clearly such a strong vibrant person, good things will come your way. It’s always difficult when relationships end, even when it’s the right decision. But remember this old adage, I find it helps everything: This too shall pass.

xoxo

K

Jenna, I’m so sorry to hear this! I’m sending you plenty of support and well wishes 🙂

Laura W

Jenna, I just can’t help but believe that there are so many new & exciting things in store for you. I’m sorry that you’re going through a tough break-up with Ryan right now. You guys really seem to have learned a lot from each other, and who knows, maybe things will come full circle in the future. It just seems like now is your time– like, you’re so close to an exciting new job, or moving to a new place, or something like that! And whatever it is that comes your way next, just know that we’ll all be here for you. 🙂

Kara

Jenna,
I am so sorry for everything going on with you. I’m actually trying to summon the strength to end a 4 year relationship right now… it really sucks. I seriously love him and he is such a huge part of my life, but I know in my heart it won’t work out in the end (or at least I won’t be happy). I keep planning to end it, but am so scared that I will be making a huge mistake and that I will end up alone. It seems selfish, I know, but it’s SO scary. He has become such a huge part of me.
Anyway, I will be using you as a source of courage in this endeavor. I’m hoping that by seeing you bounce back and move on, I can finally see that this is possible for me too. So for my sake (and mostly for yours), please prove that the post-break-up life gets better! Thank you for being a wonderful example and inspiration of a strong, independent woman. I seriously think of you when I’m faced with difficult decisions and times and what you would do in the situation. You have changed my life… all of our lives.
Sending hugs and well wishes! You’ve got this, girl!
(Run to this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n6r4KT8-VX0)

Bree

Hi Jenna,
I am sorry to hear this, but as so many others have said it does get better, one day at a time. Take care of yourself.

Heather

I am so sorry to hear about you and Ryan. I do find that everything happens for a reason (so cliche) and you will come out of this even stronger. Things will get better – take the time to relax and heal yourself – you will learn you are stronger then you ever imagined.

Jo

Keep your chin up Jenna!! Everything really does happen for a reason. I am sure you will look back on this time a few years from now and think how crazy it is that all of these tumultuous times led you to something great!

And I think ice cream will help too 😉

Bev

God does work in mysterious was. You have so much support from your family and your blogger family. It will only make you stronger 🙂

Donna

Hi Jenna-

Sorry and hugs. Break ups are so hard, change is difficult. I hope you find peace in beliveing tha God has a plan for you. I know months or a year from now you will lookback and realize you are where you are meant to be. Your a beautiful soul and deserve the best. Keep your chin up girl!

Hugs,
Donna

Sarah

Jenna,

Lots of hugs and healing thoughts your way. A breakup is one of the worst feelings, but I am sure that this will lead you to bigger and better things, and hope that you find peace with the decision. Take care of yourself!

Michelle

Jenna….hugs.

Linda

You amaze me. It’s really that simple and I get so much inspiration from you. Let yourself grieve and be kind to you. I had no idea that’s what was going on but I am so sorry. You have been in my thoughts so much since your brothers death and I love reading your posts everyday. Your life took a complete 180 after the loss of your brother and who knows what is coming up now? I think that is what life is all about. We go through these things to get us going in a different direction, or a better one for ourselves. It’s all a lesson and everything really does happen for a reason.

magicanderson

Sometimes, when it rains, it pours! It will get better! So many people are rooting for ya! Take some time to take care of YOU! Lots of hugs!
~Lisa

KatieF

Hugs to you Jenna during this difficult time. I hope for the best for both you and Ryan. You’re going to make it through this and you will be a stronger person for it.

Lauren

Peace and stay strong, Jenna. Ending a relationship is always hard, but you will get through this with strength, grace, and poise. Take care.

Brooke

Hi Jenna,
I have only commented once before, but I read your blog every day. I have been through a very similar experience recently. My mom passed away from a long battle with cancer, and about 6 months later my relationship with my long time boyfriend ended too. Its been almost 4 months since the breakup, and I am SO much stronger and happier than I was before. I discovered things about myself that I never knew, and I realized just how strong I really am. I am very happy with myself now, and I know that you will find even more strength then you already have. I truly believe everything happens for a reason. I have no idea what happened with Ryan, but I know that you will get through it and you will be better because of it!

Lindsay

Jenna, my heart goes out to you. Sometimes life seems so unfair, and it’s all you can do to just keep on going. But you ALWAYS do, and I have so much admiration for you. Thank you for opening your life up to all of us, and showing us what it means to be a truly strong woman.

carla

hey jenna,

i rarely comment on your blog (which i read religiously) but just wanted to say that, even though i imagine the past few months have seemed unbearable, God has wonderful things in store for such an amazing person as yourself. keep your faith strong!
besos y abrazos.

Erica

I hope one of my favorite quotes from the Sound of Music will give you a lift today —
“when the Lord closes a door somewhere he opens a window”
Things will get better and you have so many blogger pals giving you virtual hugs during this sad time.

Allison

Hi Jenna!

Like many others have said, I read your blog everyday but have never commented. I have been reading your blog for some time now and I think you are absolutely amazing. You are a beautiful, talented person who although I don’t know you personally, I feel you are going to do great things in your life. Like you said, God does have His plans and although at times I want to say “God, your plans suck” they do not and He does have His reasons. 🙂 You are in my thoughts and prayers. Keep smiling!

Erin

(((hugs)))
Take time for JUST you whenever you need. You don’t owe the blog world anything. I wish you peace and calm thru this.

Maria

I’m so sorry to hear about the breakup. However, like you said, God does have greater plans for you, and I know that you will be able to make it through this as an even better person (is that even possible 😉 )!! Hugs!!!

Susan

I hesitate to say “sorry,” because I’m confident you and Ryan made the best decision you could. I do want to say that I hope nothing but positive things start coming your way, and that you move from this relationship a better person than when you started 🙂

Mindy

When I read today’s blog post, the first thing that went through my mind was “*gasp!* noo!” lol, like some other blog readers I hadn’t guessed this was what was going on.. although I did notice you spending a lot of time at your parent’s house. That’s one good thing about living so close to your parents.. it’s a great place to escape to (or hide out?).. My heart goes out to you, breaking up with someone is a very painful experience, especially after you’ve been with him/her for so long.. but the pain makes you stronger and (as other blog readers have noted), time heals all.. I appreciate you sharing this news with us (the whole world? lol). We’re all here for you, Jenna. **HUGS**

lena

Hey Jenna, kinda thought something like along those lines the past few days but didn’t dare say anything. Just, am sorry to hear about it. It must be really tough after all that you have gone through. I guess everything that happens, is for a purpose and a reason, His ways are greater than man’s AND you are a great, strong and wonderful person, somewhere, there’s a wonderful someone out there, just for you. behind you all the way! you are not alone! take care. Hugs!

Savannah

Hugs to you. God has a plan for you, and I’m sure this is one step towards leading you to where you’ll be happiest.

Kristie

I’m so sorry to hear that Jenna. You’re an AMAZING person and you’ve got an enviable and unbeatably strong, positive attitude and personality. Keep your head up and keep on smiling as best you can. I have no doubt things will turn around and work out for you in no time.
HUG

Brooke

I’m sorry. I believe in what you said about a bigger plan. Pain will be eased over time and it sounds as if deep down you felt it was the right decision so it was! Turn all your energy to yourself right now and know how many people care about you in your “real” life and the blog world.
B

Kristin

Lots of hugs to you, Jenna! You’re absolutely right, God has a plan for you, and you may not get where it’s going right now but it’ll become clearer over time. 🙂

Beth @ CrossBorderCravings

I was so shocked to read that! I’m sorry to hear the news. I’m sure there are good reasons and you made the right decision in the end. Hope you feel much better soon! :O)

Julia

I’m so sorry Jenna. I actually think it is a huge blessing for you to be able to read such kind words on your blog in response to the recent change in your life. I’m going through a similar situation — not sure what the outcome will be yet — and it is just so hard to know when you are making the right decision. But, as always, you come to a point where you know what to do and it seems you have. Trust your heart and lean on your family and friends; focus on what makes YOU happy and fulfilled and content at this point in your life.

I’m think that you are an Elizabeth Gilbert fan (and if you aren’t, I’ll honestly be shocked b/c she seems right up your alley!) — here are some of her quotes (from Eat Pray Love and other writings) that might be beneficial to you right now:

“The only thing more unthinkable than leaving was staying; the only thing more impossible than staying was leaving. I didn’t want to destroy anything or anybody. I just wanted to slip quietly out the back door, without causing any fuss or consequences, and then not stop running until I reached Greenland.”

“When I get lonely these days, I think: So BE lonely, Liz. Learn your way around loneliness. Make a map of it. Sit with it, for once in your life. Welcome to the human experience. But never again use another person’s body or emotions as a scratching post for your own unfulfilled yearnings.”

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. A soul mate’s purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life…”

**And the best one, I think:**
“And I never knew at that age, in my 20s, that “I don’t know” is actually a legitimate answer that you’re allowed to say. You’re allowed to say, I don’t know, and you’re allowed to ask for as much time as you need until you do know. And if somebody doesn’t wanna give you that time, they’re allowed to leave. But you’re allowed to sit with your I don’t know. And I never sat with it because it was uncomfortable. Nobody likes that place. And so I always said yes. Oh, sure. Let’s move in together, let’s get married, let’s buy a house, let’s do all this stuff that I was sort of half yes, half no.”

Obviously the reason behind your split with Ryan is yours alone, to be kept private as it should be. Maybe there isn’t even a specific reason, and that is ok too. It is your life; all you can do is make decisions that you think are best for you based on the information you have and how you feel. No regrets 🙂

Ok, sorry to take up so much space but I just think you are an incredible person who has experienced a lot this year — good and bad — and I wish you the very best!

Julia

Marissa

Sending hugs your way!!

Raya

I know 200+ people have commented before me and this may not stand out-and I also have no idea what exactly happened between you and Ryan-but for what it’s worth, it seems your outlook on life and your goals have changed drastically in the past few months since your brother’s passing. It’s human nature to expect that the people closest to us will change right along with us, although unfortunately that is rarely the case. I believe at certain points, the path we are on is not made for two. Five days ago I just ended a one year relationship (also w/ someone named Ryan, ironically) because the circumstances were not making ME happy. I know without a doubt that I did the right thing, at least for the moment, but it still hurts and I still love him. However, knowing that I did the right thing is of little comfort and yet I find myself clinging to that fact to get me through the day. Anyways, I’ve been down this road before (as I’m sure you have too), and I know it only gets easier with every day that passes. Hang in there 🙂

<3 Raya @ RayaRuns.Com

Diane, Fit to the Finish

Sorry about your relationship. That’s always hard. Stay strong, and keep making those fabulous dishes!

Amy

Jenna, I am so sorry that you are going through this right now. Stay strong and hang in there.

kelly

I assumed you were in a funk because of the job in California. I’m so sorry about you and Ryan breaking up. Take good care of yourself through this!!!

ModelBehavior

Break ups are the worst, even when they are for the best! Hang in there!

Kathleen

I’m headed to Napa in the next couple of days and will be thinking about you. Hugs are being sent your way from NorCal.

Katie

Jenna, I’m so sorry to hear about you and Ryan. I know you’ve been through so much pain in the last few months, but I truely believe that God is setting you up for something so great. Thank you for sharing your struggles with us, I know it must be so difficult, but you are so brave. Keep your chin up and keep smiling. We all love you and support you 100%!

Angelina

You have been through so much this year….I am always amazed at your strength.
Tons of positive thoughts and blessings to you.

Tay

Jenna – my deepest apologies. I can’t imagine how hard it must be right now, but it must be for the best. You’ll move on and become stronger. Stay strong now and God IS with you 🙂

PS: Drown any sorrows you have in Costco’s AMAZING fruit. Yes, it is the best ever!

Sarah

It must be really hard to share something so personal and full of hurt with everyone, but it also must be so wonderful to know that you have so many people who care about you and wish well for you! Good luck and stay positive!

Danielle

I’m sorry to be coming to this late, but I also wanted to offer my support through your break-up with Ryan. Whatever the reason that you decided to end your relationship, I’m so glad that you are really focusing on God’s role in it and trying to understand that He truly has something amazing planned for you.

Sending super big hugs and lots of virtual chocolate your way!

jane

so weird- my boyfriend of two years and i just broke up this week too. it’s hard! let me know if i can help you at all 🙂

Rebecca

Aw Jenna, I had a feeling that’s what happened but I have total confidence that you will be ok on your own. Just the fact that you’re still blogging shows that! And you know your readers will support you 100%!

kathleen

jenna-
the end of a relationship is painful and all consuming, but you will make it through the pain. on the other side of the relationship is a brand new life-waiting and wanting you to take hold of it. hugs hugs hugs (and jellybeans) during this tough time.

ht

Hey Jenna,
Just remember… good or bad… LIFE GOES ON.

Dawn

I’m so sorry to hear this. Even when things like this are the right choice for both people, it’s still a very, very hard thing. Remember to take some time for yourself and I hope you’ll soon be on to bigger and better things, whether they be personal or professional or both!

Talia

Oh Jenna, Im so sorry, but I can see how strong you are, and I know you will persevere. To quote scrubs ” were right here beside you, and right here we will stay. Wait for tommorrow because I swear to you, your going to be ok.”

Leahbug

Aww Jenna, I’m really sorry to hear that. I hope that in the future you can find reason in all that you’ve gone through this year. At least know that you have people who care about your all over the world (even in Brisbane, Australia, where I’m from!)

LK- Healthy Delcious

oh sweetie, I’m so sorry!! I’m a fairly new reader and only an occasional commenter, but I’m really sorry to hear this.

Little Miss

I have always enjoyed all your blogs! You are a wonderful woman and an inspiration for all of us. You will get through this!! I ended a 4 year long relationship a little while ago. Stay strong!! You have so many who love you!!

Lainie

My heart goes out to you, Jenna. It sounds like you believe the old adage, “what’s meant to be, will be”. You have so much going for you – you’re gorgeous and you seem like an absolute doll. I wish you nothing but the best!

Ruby Red Vegan

I’m a regular reader…I haven’t missed a post or True/Slant article of yours for months, and I rarely comment…but I really just want to say that my heart goes out to you, girl! I’m sorry about the loss, but you are so in the right place for knowing that God has awesome plans for you! Keep your head up — I know you can stay strong, you are definitely one of my role models. You rock! 🙂

Pam

I’m so sorry to read this. Big hugs from Ohio. I’m glad to know you have a great group of friends and family nearby!

Jennifer

Hi Jenna,
My heart goes out to you. Look up Jeremiah 29:11 its one of many comforting verses I turn to when I need assurance!

Blessings,
Jen

Michelle

Jenna, I am so sorry to hear about you and Ryan. It’s crazy to think we sort of got to know you two as a couple. But you seem like such a strong and independent girl, and this gives you space to go for those dreams of yours! I give you all my best.

Paige

Jenna! I’ve been reading your blog for years now….actually about a month or two after this post. I recently reread your book and was curious about Ryan since I’d never read about him on the blog (hence my digging here). I love you and Adam together and love how God had something so beautiful and amazing waiting for you after this heartache. Isn’t it amazing how things always work themselves out?! Can’t wait to see the amazing things you and your family will do, and of course, can’t wait to meet your future son!!